The conversations went somewhat like this .. and these were just a sample..
Some relatives
Rel : So what is your plan,
Me : Oh I plan to go to goa , shop and blablah blah
Rel: but what about the baby
Me baby what baby ?
rel: when do u plan to have one.. Isnt it late .. I don’t think you should delay that
Me: ( realisation dawns that this was not exactly going the way I thot or wished..) oh ! Okai
Before leaving my MIL's place
MIL: when would you be coming next time
Me: dunno , maybe a year or more
MIL: next time come on a long long holiday,
Me: sure
MIL: (realising I was not getting the drift ) come back before next year on an extended vacation.
Me: that might be difficult
MIL : Bring the good news along
Me : all grins .. ( note to myself : reminder in the calender to get good news along)
Mom
Mom: I think its about time for a baby.. What do u think
Me: (grinning ) yes I agree hehe
Mom: I am not getting any younger.
Me: My eyebrows hitting the ceiling, Does grandmoms age also count ???
Mom: (with exaggerated patience which one might show to a really dull child) Who is going to look after you and the baby..
Me: oh oh. That way .. And then big grins
Long time ex-collegue
Col: Hi how are you ..sucha long time since we met
Me: Aww, your son is soo cute
Col: a little indignant, what about you don’t you think you should have one now
Me: you are absolutely right , I should
Col : that’s what you have been saying for years
Me : ( looking down ).. Is it ?
Friend from college:
She: So.. Are u planning kids at all ?? Last year u said , u will come along with a baby
Me: Did I ? ( tried to give my most innocent look)
She: (getting all serious) no really .. Do decide, next time when u come, u Must have a baby
Me: (trying to match the seriousness and suppressing that big grin from breaking out) yeah ..sure next year..
She: hmmph! Its really time (goes into a long lecture about why and when)
Me: (just then a huge idea lights up in my head) Hey what about u ? When u planning the next one?
She : very silent and non commital
Me: I think you should seriously plan .. Its time now don’t u think ( Bingo ! And a high five to myself)
She: yes we are thinking
Me: don’t think much .. Just go ahead its about time
7 comments:
I particularly like how you turned it around to give the friend a dose of her own medicine in the last "sample" :) Isn't it irritating how everyone just assumes it is their sacred duty to enlighten you about the virtue of having kids, and having them early, and having another one if you already have one, and how "you are not getting any younger"..... I would say only the girl's mom has a limited right to ask her about her "plans" (since, as your mom said, she will be the one looking after her "baby" and her baby's baby :D)
Yup , It used to be irritating for me esp the time i just got married.. just after a month ppol started asking me when i would 'deliver the good news'
but nowadays its just so amusing .. i just love the conversations :)
Haah!
Its hilarious!
Can just about imagine how painful it must be dealing with all this!...But u seem to be doing a fab job!
I remember I had to go thru the same thing before I got married..practically everyone I met...."accidently" ended up asking "So when are u planning to get married"!
well people like to give advice..
:))
yup..
they love to do that.. I am beginning to learn the joys of giving free advice ..:))
they say .. if you cannot beat them .. join them
Been there, gone through the torture.. First it was MIL asking me 6 months after the wedding.. Did you see the doctor and I asked her who is sick?? Then it was mother who asked me, if everything is ok? and i said yes not realizing wht exactly was the actual meaning... then the cousins, neighbours, friends, foes,.. it never ended..
after the first baby, the question was when are you having the next one..it isn't good to raise a single child..
now I have three kids.. do I regret having them? None at all..
But my advice..take your time.. once you have kids..there is no turning back..You will know in your heart, when you are ready!
Sarah
he he he...first time in here and glad I stumbled by cos I really really had so much fun reading this post :)
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